One of the quiet lies trauma teaches is that desire is dangerous — or worse, inappropriate. That wanting anything more than survival somehow dishonors the pain that came before.
But desire after trauma isn’t betrayal.
It’s information.
It speaks to the part of you that survived long enough to want again. To feel curiosity. To imagine pleasure, closeness, or intensity without it being taken from you.
Wanting does not mean you have forgotten what happened.
It means you are no longer willing to let the past decide everything for you.
Reading Trauma Mama: Velvet & Taboo 